FORGIVENESS: A Real Stress Buster

THE MOST HUMOROUS THING ABOUT forgiveness is that when people forgive someone, they thing they are doing that person a favor. Wake up ! It’s you that is receiving the biggest favor when you forgive someone. I’ll explain. Realize that science has already proven that harbored resentments, hate, hurt, etc., cause a depletion in your own system, often leading to disease and self-anguish. It would frighten people to know how much their pent-up angers and resentments are depleting their systems, causing them the lack of peace they blame others for creating.

Humans are like cars --- they check into a doctor’s office and get a physical tune-up. If the physical body shows they’re in fair shape, they get a clean bill of health and off they go. Physical health helps but it especially doesn’t guarantee you emotional and mental health. The doctors can’t see the distortions and negative backwash accumulated and stored up in your mental and emotional nature. You could say a psychiatrist would, but how many people can afford or have access to that ? If you want peace, fun and zest for living, you have to learn to maintain your mental and emotional nature the same as a doctor helps to maintain your physical. There are many tools for doing that and forgiveness is a good place to start.

For the duration of this article, let’s not perceive forgiveness as something just religious or spiritual. Look at it in a business sense --- smart business. In an act of forgiveness or “release-and-let-go,” realize that it’s you that especially comes out good because you release that disease-producing energy from your system. These energies produce hormones that toxify your mental, emotional and physical system. Forgiveness is just a process of re-balancing your internal energy distortions to recreate a harmonious flow between yourself and others. The trick is you have to forgive from the heart. A common mistake is when people try to forgive from the head, then find that the same resentments, judgements, etc,. keep popping up over and over again. People think they have forgiven others and realize later that they resent even more. It doesn’t mean that you are bad when this happens, it’s just a matter of learning more about your system, and, especially, the difference between the heart and the head.   The heart forgives; the head makes empty promises that do not reach completion. Completion is seriously important because if you leave a crack in the door, negative thoughts and emotions can blow it off the hinges. Heart intelligence clearly helps you to understand that forgiveness and release are especially for your own mental and emotional maintenance. People will do something for themselves more quickly if they can get the clarity of the benefits. I’m not implying that forgiveness doesn’t benefit the other person, because the release that it causes in other people is obvious. I’m just saying this: if you realize, in most cases, that you are the primary beneficiary when you forgive someone, you will have more incentive to complete the act of forgiveness at the heart level. Then, everyone wins. It’s okay to forgive someone for self-benefits because you have to love and respect your own energies before you are truly effective in facilitating someone else’s needs. The prime message in this content is that forgiveness is not some little churchy act you put on to do someone else a favor. It’s both parties that receive an increase in their energy bank account.

FORGIVING AND RELEASING OLD HURTS and hate from your system is taking a mental and emotional bath. It’s like taking a physical bath at night. Notice how people bathe their bodies on a regular basis, yet the will store negative toxic junk in their mental and emotional natures for years without a clean up. Trust me, it causes your system to be taxed accordingly. It’s really the mental and emotional bath you need daily. That’s where your happiness and quality of life are registered.

     Forgiveness is not some little churchy act you put on to do someone else a favor. It’s both parties that receive an increase in their energy bank account.

Here is another humorous gesture of human inefficiency. It has to do with justified resentments and hate. Just because you think that hate and non-forgiveness are justified in certain cases, wake up and realize that you are still poisoning your own system and you are doing more damage to yourself than the ones you resent or hate. In many cases the people you hate or resent don’t even know about it, while you relentlessly destroy the vitality of your own mental, emotional and physical system. It’s especially you that you are punishing. Again, I’m not talking religion, I’m talking business - the business of your own self-health - “streetsense !”   It’s about preventative maintenance that can keep the doctor bills down and keep your happiness and fun up. Be careful of falling in the trap of justified hate because it’s really you that’s taking the lashing. If it sounds like I’m overly intent on this one point, it may be you that needs to hear it one more time so that you might just hear it for the first time. Once you really hear it from the heart, here is how you can do yourself a favor, a big one. List all the people, organizations, issues or anything you hold hate and resentments against. Then make a serious effort from the heart to release those negative frequencies from your system and replace it with heat intelligence. Heart intelligence would ask you, why drain your life and junk up your system just because someone else is out of phase in their life ? It may be hard for you to put out love for someone who has offended you but you can sure “smarten up” and at least finally release yourself from the negative feedback loop created when resenting others and yourself. Forgiveness is a featured aspect of self-management, yet self-management is not featured in most people’s day-to-day agenda.

I’m well aware that some situations are deeply rooted with hurt and pain caused by others. Still for the sake of your own health and the people around you, it’s worth going deeper in the heart and finally releasing that negative junk. I know this would sound disgusting to some, but practice sending loving thoughts to the people and issues that draw the most resentments and judgements out of you. The trick is not to expect them to change. Just realize that heart energy running through your system starts to restore and balance out the negative accumulations from “stinking thinking” and ill-governed emotions. Do it for you, then you will more understand the benefits of learning to love everyone --- even those you may despise. Take things a step at a time but at least keep walking.

IF THIS CONTENT SPARKS ANY “make-sense” within you and you decide to consider forgiving more and suffering less, don’t make your efforts from the head. Do it from the heart ! The heart is where you will tap the power of care. It’s the care that is missing in people’s efforts of good intentions. I’m just trying to give you good reasons to at least care for yourself enough to practice forgiveness and letting go. True self-care will lead to a deeper caring for others. Care is love in different degrees and potencies. Turn on the shower in your heart and charge love through your mental and emotional nature each time you jump in a shower to wash the “ol’ body.” Send heart and love energy into the world if you really want to play an effective part in cleaning up the planetary stress-mess. It’s the individual application of heart power that’s missing in self-management, making it convenient to blame your problems on everyone and everything else. Stress will finally produce this awakening but you don’t have to wait any longer than the next moment to start. The practice of forgiveness is a most efficient starting point because that is love in action.

Before I quieten this article, let me mention self-forgiveness, for many of you were wondering why I didn’t start with that, possibly. Maybe I saved the most important for last, but you should remember it first if you are going to experiment with forgiveness at all. Realize that when you don’t forgive and release yourself, you are seriously wasting energy and bleeding off the vitality in your life force. Self-discipline is efficient but self-punishment defies intelligence and especially common sense. Your heart truth would know that self-punishment can cause more harm to you than the wrong you did. Forget self-punishment, pick up the pieces, forgive yourself and move on from there. That’s heart management. The head management causes you to collect dust until it turns into dirt. You use your thinking equipment often to dig yourself deeper into the mud. It just doesn’t have to be that way. You just have to stop occasionally to practice using your heart decisions to manage your life rather than your head.

SELF-FORGIVENESS BRINGS YOUR mental and emotional energy systems back into balance. That’s all. No big deal. It’s not necessarily religious or spiritual, it’s just good ol’ streetsense --- the missing link in intelligence that scientists are looking for. Once you practice forgiving and releasing yourself, you’ll realize the benefits soon in the way you feel overall. This will give you incentive to release, not judge, and to forgive other people. Remember, it’s you that you are taking care of when you practice that. People complain about stress daily but refuse to realize they could weed out the highest percent of their stress by practicing self-management through learning to follow their heart. Do yourself a favor folks, ease up on yourself. If you have something eating on you inside, then talk it out, work it out, release it. Just get it out because it’s like an energy vampire guaranteed to drain daily a percentage of your life’s enjoyment potentials. Practiced heart intelligence can rearrange the non-efficient thoughts and energy expenditures you generate daily. Religion is waiting for all the great teachers to return and do something. The humor is that the great teachers are probably waiting for the people to do something with what they have already been told --- to clean up their own mess. The answers are within you for that.

Forgiveness has been around for quite awhile so you probably already know the contents of this article. However, you can know it in your head for years but the knowledge doesn’t turn into wisdom until you have heard and applied it from the heart. Play with it for awhile and you can secretly smile when you start to realize that much of the stress you have been experiencing could have easily been avoided. It was just a matter of listening to and following what you already knew, your heart. It’s actually fun to start experiencing the power of your own self-management. That leads to self-empowerment --- the new planetary buzzword or slogan. Self-forgiveness, and the forgiveness of other people, places and things, is a good, efficient place to start building your self-empowerment. Take care of yourself for a change and clean the carbuncles and soot out of your mental and emotional pipes. It can brighten up your life even more than a smile. Why ? Because many times smiles are used to cover up what’s not cleaned up --- just humor, keep on smiling. Learn the science of forgiveness as a good business investment. It’s the business of managing yourself. Have fun with it. I’m outta here.

Forgiveness: A Real Stress Buster...

comes to you from, the one & only, HeartMath

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